Negativity affects more than the people around the negative person, it also affects the person themselves. I’m an optimistic person, so I tend to see what things could be, the people I appreciate are those who do not get down on me, but help me to stop and see the details. If you’re your young, you’ll experience a lot of negativity, the hard part is not allowing yourself to fall into that.
Now, people tend to mix up realistic and negative, even those who are negative. Negativity is putting someone down because their statements seem wrong, realism is getting all the information before forming a judgement. Negativity is seeing optimism as naive and unintelligent whereas realism sees optimism as big picture and will guide that picture in the right direction.
I understand that life can throw hard things our way, I had a surgery that took the opportunity to go to the olympics right out of my hands. That surgery, helped me to meet God, my life changed for the better once I had that opportunity ripped from me. My parents got divorced and have been fighting in so many ways my whole life. That fighting, gave me the chance to speak to them in more ways than I could have before.
Life throwing us the hard things, can bring the light into our life. If we allow the negative and the bad to infect our life, instead of trying to heal and see the good, we start to be negative to all the other people in our lives. We think, “that couple is too young for this or that etc” or “that person needs to sit down and see all the bad things that could happen” and even this, “I should just stop trying” we say things like this that just aren’t fair.
That young couple, may have financial problems but, they are able to provide just fine for their newborn and their marriage, is better than half of the people who got married later in life. That person who is excited or interested in something new, has the chance to change their life or even, the world. You may have been trying hard to do something, but failing doesn’t make you useless, it just means you have to get on your feet and try again. Don’t beat yourself up, and don’t beat up the people around you.
I think sometimes we get so caught up in the negative things in life that we don’t recognize when we project that negativity onto the people around us. It’s not fair to ourselves or the people around us. Just because life has been hard on you, doesn’t mean you get to put down the people around you.
We focus so much on our differences, and that is creating,mi think, a lot of chaos and negativity and bullying in the world. I think if everybody focused on what we all have in common-which is- we all want to be happy. -Ellen Degeneres