You may or may not know, I am married to the wonderful man in this picture, and this was during the first year we were together. Things are going good for us, we have our struggles but that is normal. We are so very happy and I figured it may be time to share our story with everyone.
When I got into college I was dating someone back home, long story short, that was not a healthy relationship and ended really rough. I went for about eight months just concentrating on myself and my relationship with God. In that time I was building some very beautiful friendships and becoming more of who God created me to be. In all honesty I wasn’t looking for a relationship but, I was open to it if it happened. I had a few guys talk to me but none of them really seemed to fit what I wanted in a man. I guess you could say I was kind of picky.
One day, my husband messaged me on Facebook, he had dated my roommate the first semester of college and she and I did not get along. He saw my status about getting an infection from my wisdom tooth surgery, and said he was praying for me and hoped that I felt better. Its funny, to this day I remember so clearly motioning to my roommate (the second semester I switched apartments and became best friends with my new roommate) and asking what this guy was doing. I didn’t answer him, then three days later he messaged me again. At this point I realized he wasn’t going to stop talking to me, so I replied to his message.
From that day on, we constantly messaged, and I finally got tired of always being on Facebook so I gave him my cell number purely out of just being busy and it being easier to answer. We texted for a few weeks, and then one day I asked him if he wanted to hang out, I had some free time and I figured it would be better than texting. We hung out and it was a little weird but it went really well. From that point, we began hanging out almost everyday and talking and sharing music.
Over spring break, he texted me saying that he liked me, and at this point I still wasn’t fully into the idea of dating. I didn’t really like him that way, so me, being a people pleaser said “Why don’t we just get to know each other more” and we hung out even more. One day I finally held his hand, and then a week or two later he asked if he could kiss me. Then the next week we started dating.
We kept it on the down low for about a week and then announced it to everyone. Everything was going so well, we got stronger and stronger each day, reading the Bible together and doing everything we could together. Then a semester came where we both ended up going home for a semester, and because I got so busy, I became worse at communicating. We broke up for a week, but during that week I realized how much I cared about him. I couldn’t eat, and I didn’t feel like doing anything, I exercised and slept to keep my mind off of him. Then one day he called me saying he wanted me to come visit, so the next week I did. We sat and talked for a bit, and then decided this was something we wanted.
We got back together and started working on our problems, and Im telling you that break really helped us grow stronger together. I honestly believe it was a God thing, without God Im not sure we would have gotten back together. It was the worst time of my life. Then a year later, he proposed to me.
I said yes, and then a year later we got married!
Then a month later we got the news that we were expecting!!! It was a big shock to everyone, because doctors always told me I wouldn’t be able to have children and if I could it would take a long time to conceive. We are so excited, our little one is a boy, Levi James. We can’t wait to meet him in March!
Thats our story so far, it may seem simple but, with every person, there are too many details to put into one post. This man has grown so much and helped me to grow. He is a strong rock and an amazing husband. He is going to be such a wonderful dad! He loves God and I know that our little man will learn so much from him. I can say that marriage is truly a gift from God, one of the greatest gifts next to salvation.
If theres one thing I can say about relationships its that, the best ones are worth waiting for. When you don’t try to force them and you don’t think about them all the time, is when God brings them to you. When you focus on God, He truly starts to prepare you for your future spouse in the best way. So don’t be discouraged if you haven’t found someone, focus on your relationship with God and be content. If our not content in your relationship with God, you’re not truly ready for a relationship with another person.
I hope that you’re able to take this and see God work through it! Im praying that He works in you in whatever your situation is right now!