The picture above may make you a little uncomfortable, and a little grossed out but, that picture shows a reason why I believe that “fed is best” and why the mom shaming needs to end.
When my son was born, he went from 6lbs 7 oz, to 6lbs 3 oz in a week. He threw up everything he ate, every time he ate. I couldn’t keep up with him because he threw up and was hungry again at every feeding and I had to switch from breastfeeding to formula. We finally got some medication for him and after that he was able to keep down most of his food. He still threw up but not quite as often and finally started gaining weight.
You have to understand one thing, I was crushed, and frustrated that I couldn’t breastfeed him because I love the benefits it has. However, my sons health, was more important than my desires. I am thankful that we live in a time where formula is available for moms like me who have no other way of feeding their child. Without formula, my son could have starved to death, he could have developed an illness, or he might have had to use a feeding tube or be on medication his whole life.
He is thankfully now a 20 lb, healthy toddler who will eat anything and everything given to him. October 21st, our little girl was born at 6 lbs 11 oz, slightly bigger than her brother. She went down to 6lbs 4 oz in a week, the difference this time though is that she is able to keep her food down. She does spit up every now and then but it is nowhere near as bad as her brother.
She is now 7 lbs exactly at week 2, and eats very well! This time around I am working and so, I have made the decision to pump. now let me tell you, pumping is not easy. its frustrating, takes a lot of work, and you have to constantly make sure your body is getting what it needs to be able to nourish your little one. There are days where I can pump 3 oz and days where I barely get an ounce. Its not easy or fun, but, my husband has to have a way to feed our baby when I start working again.
Now, if I couldn’t pump at all, of course we would supplement with formula, but since I can this time around we haven’t had to buy formula. That brings me to that picture, that is about 2 oz, and I am so happy I can do that because I didn’t get to with my son. My baby girl is being fed the best thing, and I am so glad I get the chance to do that for her. That picture is the reason I believe the baby being fed and full is better than anything else.
If you’re a momma using formula, don’t feel bad and don’t let others put you down, you’re doing the best thing you can for your baby. I don’t know any loving mother who would rather have her child starve than give them formula. I am thankful for formula and you should be too. Keep on doing what you’re doing, you’re doing good momma and no one can make a better decision for your baby than you.
If you’re a breastfeeding momma, congrats to you. Breastfeeding isn’t easy, you have to wake up constantly through the night because breastmilk is not as filling as formula. You have to pump if you go back to work, you have to stop what you’re doing every 2-3 hours and make sure your baby eats. you have to work through the pain. However, don’t make moms who formula feed, feel bad. Some of them can’t breastfeed and without formula their baby wouldn’t be healthy.
“Fed” is truly “Best” because whatever it takes to keep that little one fed, full, and happy should be celebrated.